For the past couple of months I have been hearing news of people I know getting hitched or hearing some of them further discussing their plans for their weddings this year. Most of them just got proposed to. And there are some who got proposed to and are getting married the same year.
It's like seeing people you know, going to move on to the next phase of life. Of course you feel happy for them and hope for the best. And for me it means more celebrations! I love weddings :)
And it seems so exciting. Making plans to create the 'best' or 'perfect' wedding or celebration of marriage which only happens once in your lifetime. I got to give it to those couples who have already gone through all that:
1) the scouting and booking of venue for the wedding dinner(s) and figuring how many tables you need (not just want)
2) the dress and gown searching and fitting (and having to lose weight or gain some muscle mass somewhere just to fit the dress better, and not the other way around)
3) the registration of marriage (which sounds simple but it really isn't because that depends on when there is an available 'slot' at the National Registration Department)
4) the menu for the dinner(s) or catering for related programme (base on your budget and the capacity, and whether you want to reward your guests for making it a point to come and dress so nicely to your wedding dinner and/or the solemnization and giving you Ang Pows)
5) marriage counselling (for those of the Christian and/or Catholic faith, it is a must to go through this prior to the wedding or the registration)
6) the custom made wedding invitations by the hundreds (and if you want to save money, what they do now is to actually ask the guests informally first so that there is enough to send out, or need not to send out)
7) budgeting and financing (it's a lot of money to pay out once everything is put together in that expenses list)
8) guests list(s) and table seating (oh my gosh. This is as challenging as Sudoku)
9) studio and outdoor photo session with heavy make up and neck breaking hair dos (I think this is the only fun part of the whole thing)
10) music (hey you got to think and really find suitable music - don't just simply get some compilation CD and have '25 Minutes' by Michael Learns to Rock halfway through the dinner. And karaoke songs are meant for the karaoke joint)
11) the parents and the relatives (this is the scariest part especially prior getting married. You know, both side of the family getting together to discuss the wedding plans? Quite daunting if you ask me. And the relatives? you have to invite them no matter what)
12) alcohol (lots of it ready for the guests to be merry. Though the idea of a drunk husband on my wedding night/first night as a married couple isn't what I would like to see)
13) the MC for the dinner (I'm not sure about wanting somebody to 'bring the house down' or somebody telling stupid wedding/marriage jokes or someone very quiet)
14) hiring a photographer or videographer who should go everywhere with you and capturing every moment of that one day, or two
15) wedding favours and/or thank you notes (to DIY or not to DIY, that's the question)
16) church wedding (that alone is a separate programme and requires its own planning and itinery and the right people like below)
17) bridesmaids and best men, ring bearer and flower girl (it's either all or none at all. No I'm just kidding. To me this is also another puzzle to solve)
18) RSVPs (yes, if you have planned well on item no 6 above, this shouldn't be a problem)
19) the additional itinery/programme or memorabilia (you know how some couples want to do or have to be a little different than other couples? I think having a theme would be fun?)
20) honeymoon (something to plan way before anything else because after all that stress from planning and organising all the above, a good getaway with your spouse would be deserving)
Not sure if I have come up with everything. But even these are enough to kill you. There is a LOT to be done (which just emphasizes that perfection is something impossible in this case). Yeah I write as though I'm the one getting married huh? Nope.
Sometimes I wonder why people go through so much 'trouble' just to celebrate their marriage. Just like how some people go through so much just to celebrate Valentine's Day and then they realise they have to do even better for their weddings. I don't think in the olden days getting married was so elaborate and so...tedious. And stressful I might add. So much organising and coordinating to do. And this event is your own wedding. I wonder how I'm going to cope when my turn comes? :)P
Anyway, to all who are getting married or engaged, I congratulate you. Wishing you all great happiness and joy in your marriages. God bless!
It's like seeing people you know, going to move on to the next phase of life. Of course you feel happy for them and hope for the best. And for me it means more celebrations! I love weddings :)
And it seems so exciting. Making plans to create the 'best' or 'perfect' wedding or celebration of marriage which only happens once in your lifetime. I got to give it to those couples who have already gone through all that:
1) the scouting and booking of venue for the wedding dinner(s) and figuring how many tables you need (not just want)
2) the dress and gown searching and fitting (and having to lose weight or gain some muscle mass somewhere just to fit the dress better, and not the other way around)
3) the registration of marriage (which sounds simple but it really isn't because that depends on when there is an available 'slot' at the National Registration Department)
4) the menu for the dinner(s) or catering for related programme (base on your budget and the capacity, and whether you want to reward your guests for making it a point to come and dress so nicely to your wedding dinner and/or the solemnization and giving you Ang Pows)
5) marriage counselling (for those of the Christian and/or Catholic faith, it is a must to go through this prior to the wedding or the registration)
6) the custom made wedding invitations by the hundreds (and if you want to save money, what they do now is to actually ask the guests informally first so that there is enough to send out, or need not to send out)
7) budgeting and financing (it's a lot of money to pay out once everything is put together in that expenses list)
8) guests list(s) and table seating (oh my gosh. This is as challenging as Sudoku)
9) studio and outdoor photo session with heavy make up and neck breaking hair dos (I think this is the only fun part of the whole thing)
10) music (hey you got to think and really find suitable music - don't just simply get some compilation CD and have '25 Minutes' by Michael Learns to Rock halfway through the dinner. And karaoke songs are meant for the karaoke joint)
11) the parents and the relatives (this is the scariest part especially prior getting married. You know, both side of the family getting together to discuss the wedding plans? Quite daunting if you ask me. And the relatives? you have to invite them no matter what)
12) alcohol (lots of it ready for the guests to be merry. Though the idea of a drunk husband on my wedding night/first night as a married couple isn't what I would like to see)
13) the MC for the dinner (I'm not sure about wanting somebody to 'bring the house down' or somebody telling stupid wedding/marriage jokes or someone very quiet)
14) hiring a photographer or videographer who should go everywhere with you and capturing every moment of that one day, or two
15) wedding favours and/or thank you notes (to DIY or not to DIY, that's the question)
16) church wedding (that alone is a separate programme and requires its own planning and itinery and the right people like below)
17) bridesmaids and best men, ring bearer and flower girl (it's either all or none at all. No I'm just kidding. To me this is also another puzzle to solve)
18) RSVPs (yes, if you have planned well on item no 6 above, this shouldn't be a problem)
19) the additional itinery/programme or memorabilia (you know how some couples want to do or have to be a little different than other couples? I think having a theme would be fun?)
20) honeymoon (something to plan way before anything else because after all that stress from planning and organising all the above, a good getaway with your spouse would be deserving)
Not sure if I have come up with everything. But even these are enough to kill you. There is a LOT to be done (which just emphasizes that perfection is something impossible in this case). Yeah I write as though I'm the one getting married huh? Nope.
Sometimes I wonder why people go through so much 'trouble' just to celebrate their marriage. Just like how some people go through so much just to celebrate Valentine's Day and then they realise they have to do even better for their weddings. I don't think in the olden days getting married was so elaborate and so...tedious. And stressful I might add. So much organising and coordinating to do. And this event is your own wedding. I wonder how I'm going to cope when my turn comes? :)P
Anyway, to all who are getting married or engaged, I congratulate you. Wishing you all great happiness and joy in your marriages. God bless!
1 comment:
I forgot!
The Chinese 'tea ceremony'!
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